This Xeet prompted this post.
Note the 27,000 reposts, and in case the writing is too small, here are the 4 images the commenter “Myka” does not give any fucks about at all.
Now my general feeling on this sort of thing is that the men who whine about this just need to grow a pair. Or not, and die without reproducing, with any luck.
And of course that no man at all should ever reproduce in any fashion, or even have any sex, whatsoever, indeed ANY involvement at all with women like Myka. If men followed this sensible advice, within about a month, the entire world would be aflame with how all men are evil and so on. After about a year, feminists would have almost died out, and after a decade the only feminists left would be in mental institutions for the unfortunately insane.
But I am trying to be more compassionate and understanding to those men that have been already crushed by life, their single mothers, or whatever. Maybe you’re a short, hairy goblin with nothing going for you. And it would be unfair for me to simply tell you to “man up” if you understand that in the context of you being able to marry a supermodel not being possible only because of your lack of confidence.
So let me spell things out.
Absolutely you need to change what you can. Get fit, make sure you are always clean, dress better, shave or laser your over-hairy ass, improve your job prospects and career, and so on. Sure, do all of that, but above all, the ONE thing you absolutely CAN do is fish in your level.
As a man you should be able to be brutally objective. So first fix all you can reasonably fix. Then give yourself a fair rating.
Personally, even when I had hair, i never rated myself above a 7 or so, even if objectively I knew that for a not insignificant number of women I was definitely at least an 8 in looks. And in ambition and what I was doing in life, again, for any woman overly concerned about material wealth I have fluctuated from a 2 to an 8 and in some cases a 9, but any woman that understood my nature at all was more liable to rate me a 6 or at most a 7. What I always had in spades however was an unflinching dedication to simply be me. Regardless of what anyone else thought of it. And that, at least temporarily, despite all my other numbers being lower or even much lower, made me at least an 8 and often an 8.5 or even 9.
I provide all the different metrics because unlike men, women do not rate us simply on looks.
It is not a councidence that most of my girlfriends, and certainly all the ones I was interested in to some more or less serious degree were invariably rated at least as 8s by men that generally had been successful with women and often as 9s and rather often as 10s by all the men who had been more averagely successful with women. Many a time I have been told by literally dozens of co-workers from multiple companies, that I was “punching above my weight” and more than once at various large company Christmas parties I was noticed by literally the entire firm, including the owners who would act deferentially to me despite me being merely one of the several people at my level they employed.
I have literally had random strangers stop me and a woman I was with in the street to congratulate me for the beauty of the woman I was with. And even today, I get friends who, without in any way saying this to “get in my good graces” rave about my wife.
I am not telling you this to depress you or show off.
I am trying to explain to you an important point that if you can internalise it will aid you in your quest for a genuine, long term companionship, marriage and a family more than any other single thing you can do.
The reason I did so well, was because I correctly evaluated all my metrics and played to my strengths. And my strengths are absolutely real, forged in the deepest fire of personal self-knowledge.
I have turned down large amounts of money, very hot women, and all sorts of other things in order to not do anything that would compromise my own sense of integrity. So, bending to some temporary whim of a pretty woman was never in the cards for me. This, of course, has the effect of immediately seeing off pretty much any woman who is not a full blown psychopath/narcissist but has those tendencies. Their need for some form of manipulative control over the man (victim?) they select simply drives them crazy when faced with someone of my temperament.
On the plus side, normal women wired in a healthy way, tend to be attracted to that level of confidence (so do all the pretty but damaged ones, which brings up another set of problems we won’t go into here).
The point is that deep and true self-knowledge is always the key. That is step one. Step two is to improve all you can, but it is step three that is the absolute silver bullet insofar as one exists:
Look in your own range.
It would probably be difficult for a guy that is 5’5”, has the genes of predisposition to fatness, is born poor and has a single mother raising him, to have the same level of hard-headed conviction I seem to have been born with. And I absolutely believe part of it is due to my Aspergers, which does not present as such due to high IQ and the luck I had in my rather unusual early life. But the point is that if I had been born in that body but retained my mental attitude, I would probably have been comfortably married a lot sooner, have more children and my friends would rave about how kind and pleasant my wife is. And she would probably be a 6 or maybe a 7 at most. Because that is where I would fall overall if you removed the physical advantages I have.
But let’s say you are overall just a 2.
I actually know people like this. Literal cripples with disfiguring handicaps, no real money or any special prospects. And yet both the ones I know personally are happily married and have been for years. One studied hard, became a lawyer, made money, then travelled to the East and essentially “bought” a filipino wife, being brutally honest with her. He really is about a 2 and she is about a 5 or at most a 6. But his overall number is probably a 4. He is wealthy. And the difference between a possible 4 and 6 is his level of self-knowledge. When I first met him and we spoke a bit he simply stated exactly what I said above and his wife was present. They had been married and living in London for over ten years. He praised her for being loyal and helping look after him. Maybe she was more nurse than wife. Maybe there was a financial arrangement we know nothing of. But his wife did not look or present as miserable and neither did he.
The other guy is married to a woman that also has some physical handicaps. They clearly love each other, have been together for decades and she is a very kind and decent person no one can say a bad word about.
The point is that both men went after a woman within their own numbers.
As did I. And let me tell you that the search at the lower end of the pool, once you accept this truth, is FAR easier than at the “pretty” end of the pool.
The reason was well known to me even decades ago, as is evident by one of my very first posts back in 2007 in a now permanently parked ancient blog (Take note of the relevant image here.)
And has been known by men worldwide at least since the days if the crazy/hot matrix of the early 1990s.
So. Do not despair. It’s only 4 simple rules:
1. Fix what you can fix externally (looks, hygiene, clothing, income, etc.)
2. Chose who you are internally. Learn and know deeply who you really are, so no matter the situation, you will almost always already know how you will react to it. If you are mot how you wish to be yet, do whatever you need to do to become it.
3. Rate yourself honestly in all categories and hence in the overall number you are and then go fish in the pond of your own level.
4. Do not despair. Just correct any errors and persevere.
That’s it.
If you want more detail and context you might also want to get Caveman Theory, but honestly if you just do the 4 steps above, you will eventually succeed.
And never forget point n. 4.
Somebody needs to warn the bears.